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Alchemy of love

All my life I have been intrigued by the confusion we live in when it comes to love, intimacy and sexuality. From my role as a body-oriented sexologist & counselor I have a mission: to remove the veils in these areas. What becomes visible is a deep experience and understanding of love and sexuality as a tool for healing and transformation.
I inspire by on the one hand creating consciousness through writing about love and sexuality and on the other hand by (teaching you) to re-member the body with a physical touch of the original state, which is love. I work with both couples and individuals. On this website I share what inspires me in my field and how you can be part of it.
Would you like free advice on how you can take the next step in connecting with yourself and / or your loved one and how I can support you in this? You can approach me personally via This email address is being protected from spambots. You need JavaScript enabled to view it. to make a call appointment. Based on a number of questions I ask, I will then provide you with free advice.

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Massage Ritual (individual)

Traditionally, it is women who initiate men on the path of intimacy and sacred sexuality. Yet I see that as women we often expect our beloved (husband) to teach us this art. This often leads to disappointment; to complete weakening in our vivacity and sometimes even to complete abstinence from intimacy. The result of this is (I like to exaggerate): a society with emotional women (femininity) and absent men (masculinity). We both know deep down that things can be done differently, but how?

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Massage Ritual & Love Retreat (for lovers)

As an extra supplement to a stay in the Love Bubble I also give it Massage Ritual to loved ones. In this ritual I touch you both, first separately in close proximity and then together. The intention of my touch is to turn on the flow of love in your two bodies and then to connect these flows with each other. This brings you beyond the everyday, to the essence of your connection. Depending on your own intention, the emphasis is more on relaxation, deepening or initiation (see explanation Massage Ritual individually).

As an extra floor on the stay at the Love Bubble I also give one Love retreat to loved ones. Your question is central to this retreat; the theme on which you wish to be inspired. You will jointly explain this theme in a telephone intake. First of all I look to see if I think I can inspire you and if so, then come with a no-obligation proposal and possibly homework until the retreat. In the retreat itself, the touch is an important tool for me. By making contact with your bodies, the deeper stratification of the theme that you want to explore unfolds. This creates healing and transformation.

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Love bubbles

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How long has it been since you spent 21 hours with your loved one without being disturbed by anything or anyone? The Original Love Bubble originated from my own need to lock me up with my loved one once a month. Because I experience how important it is to find the peace and space in my relationship to really be together, we started sharing our Love Bubble (hence the name Original) and several Love Bubbles soon followed at LandGoed in Lochem ( in 2022 we expect to have 7 Love Bubbles at LandGoed). The Love Bubbles have now been developed into an experience where you can lock up together with your loved one for 21 hours in very pleasant circumstances (including private wellness facilities), where you only have to bring your toothbrush, where you are completely taken care of without seeing anyone or hear, where the love (again) will flow in your connection, where you can be inspired by Love Rituals and where you celebrate the essence of your love above all else.
If you want to hear more about the Love Bubbles, watch part 1 and part 2 of the interview with me and relationship therapist Marieke Proper or visit the website.

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Claudette van Soulmission visited the Love Bubble with her partner Ralph and had a prior conversation with the initiator about Love, Intimacy and Sexuality in relationships. Listen this podcast on spotify.


What does society look like when we create a safe bed where we, as individuals and collectively, can melt our daily lead into gold? At LandGoed in Lochem, where the Love Bubbles are being developed, this is a living experiment supported by two foundations founded in 2014 (IAM and The Swarm). The soul of this life's work is the group of people with whom we give the Love Bubbles wings based on 'the swarm' as a corporate structure. In 'A day at LandGoed' two colleagues speak and in the other videos more about my personal quest in relation to LandGoed.

Wedding Ceremony

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Marriage is a magical ceremony for me where you experience sacred unification as two individuals. Preparing for the wedding ceremony, of which the wedding vows are an important part, is a journey for me that I undertake together with you and also as two individuals. Based on our contact, I write a fairy tale for the day itself, your own love story, that I recite. This ceremony can possibly be supplemented with a handfasting ritual where your vows and the wishes of your guests are bundled into an infinite knot of love.

Love Ritual Box

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In guiding loved ones (not to mention my own path) I come across many the same themes that we (almost) all come across in a longer love relationship. Such as: How do I bring the feeling of love back into my relationship? How can we be together again and more intimately? How can we learn to communicate lovingly? Etc. 
I have written love rituals based on these themes. Together with matching tools to perform the ritual, I have incorporated these rituals with a few creative colleagues into beautiful Love Ritual Boxes. I hope this will inspire loved ones to grow together through love. 
At the moment there are four different themes: Lift my Dreams about using love as creative power, Surrender to my Love about surrender, Be my Lover about loving communication, and Master the Universe about mastery & soft sex. For all the different flavors and ordering options, see the website.

What and who inspires me

These people, books and videos about love and sexuality as a tool for healing and transformation have inspired me:

 Diana Richardson is a great source of inspiration for me at the moment when it comes to creating body awareness in and through the intimacy and the world that can unfold from there:


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Slow Sex - informative film (can be ordered via inspired by the work of Diana Richardson (also nice to watch with teenagers)

Book Slow Sex, inspired by the work of Diana Richardson 

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About me, my mission and vision

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I was thirty years old and traveled to Burma for the second time to meditate for a long period in a monastery. And then suddenly, during a meditation, I felt that I wanted to touch people, that I wanted to be very close to the other person and (thereby) myself through the touch. It felt like a next step in my inner search around the themes of love, intimacy and sexuality. As a child and teenager, I had experienced the true potential of sexuality, but as I grew older I seemed to wander further and further from the unity experiences that appeared so naturally at the time.

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